AITA : 'I'm DONE!' : Overworked Wife Abandons Husband & Kids for a Two-Day Vacation, Comes Back to a Messy House and Husband’s Suitcases Packed Because He Couldn’t Handle Her Workload

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    Font - Posted by u/Chemical-Mess-7883 7 hours ago 2 AITA for Leaving My Husband Alone With The Kids For 2 days
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    Font - I (24f) have 2 sets of twins first set are 5 years old boys and the second set are 3 year old girls.
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    Font - My husband (27) always complains that the house isn't up to his standards and that it's a mess or that I sometimes put on frozen meals instead of cooking a fresh dinner.
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    Font - It's super irritating because I'm expected to do everything just because I work from home he thinks that I have it easier then job then his which is physical labor.
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    Font - I can never do anything because when he has time off all he wants to do is sleep and says he needs it because he is exhausted from work or he wants to use his break to hang with his friends.
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    Font - So basically all the chores are usually thrown on me and I had enough of it and it came to show when my friend called me to hang out and when I asked my husband to watch them so I can go he went into a rant about how he's tired and been working all week and the least I could do is watch the children so that he could get some rest because I'm home all day with easy work.
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    Font - So I decided after I put the children to sleep that night to leave a note saying that I'll be out just leave and have a night out with the girls which ended up turning into a weekend out with the girls.
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    Font - When morning time came he was calling and texting me nonstop and when I answered he was yelling at me and cursing me out when my friends overheard the conversation they were shocked and hanged up the phone for me and told me to mute it.
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    Font - I didn't have any plans to stay any longer then that night but when my friends overheard how my husband spoke to me they convinced me to stay and even told me they'd take me out to eat and planned a whole day for me.
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    Font - When I got back the place was a complete and utter mess like pile full of dishes, garbage all over the place, floors were sticky, there was pee all over the toilet and the place just smelled awful.
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    Font - My husband of course was angry and had a suitcase already packed he barely said 2 words to me and just left and texted me saying he'll be staying at his moms. Now I feel horrible because clearly he couldn't handle taking care of the kids for this long by himself and I feel like an asshole and don't want this to ruin my marriage.
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    Font - Do you all think I'm an asshole for the way I acted?
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    Font - DoraTheUrban Explorer 7 hr. agn ● Colo-rectal Surgeon [38] ΝΤΑ But honey RUIN THIS MARRIAGE. You work full time, take care of 4 kids under 6, cook and keep.the house clean FULL TIME?
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    Font - He expects to come home to a home cooked meal? Sleep when he's home? Hang out with his friends.? This is not a marriage, it's a joke. He is providing you 0 support and then whining when asked to help at all, or when things aren't perfect.
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    Font - It doesn't matter if your job is easier or not (it's probably not easier just different) he's not entitled to mooch off of you. Honey forget this. You can do it on your own.
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    Product - birdingisfun 7 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [17] OP is basically a single mom already.
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    Font - Rowanever 6 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [42] With extra work. It's amazing the amount of housework a single adult can create when they're not putting any effort into cleaning up after themselves. And demanding home- cooked meals.
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    Font - Working full-time plus all the housework plus all the at-home childcare for 4 kids? Yeeesh. That's going to exhaust anyone. She can lighten the load by decreasing the number of people making a mess and requiring mental and emotional upkeep.
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    Font - shontsu 4 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [5] This is always what gets me with stories like this. There would be less effort being single than in a relationship like this.
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    Font - ladancer22 2 hr. ago Partassipant [1] There's a statistic that finds women in relationships do something like 7 hours more of housework a week than those who are single, and men in relationships do 1 hour less of housework a week than those that are single. I don't remember the exact numbers or the study, but I know it found women did more housework in relationships while men did less.

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